I have had a very emotionally trying month this month. My 92-year-old aunt has been on death’s doorstep off and on for the past 2 years, and each time she gets really ill and debilitated, she bounces back again. Recently she had another 2 episodes and last week I was convinced it was finally her time to cross over. Well true to form she has bounced back again and this morning was dressed and even able to feed herself for the first time in 2 weeks.
Ruminating over this, led me to think of how so many people are reluctant to let go of the past and make different life choices. When we hold onto the past and especially all the slights and pain we have endured over time, this puts a pause button on everything and keeps us stuck, replaying those experiences. Most of our thoughts are of the past and when we keep repeating and embellishing the stories, our higher-self thinks that it is happening all over again and that this is the reality we want – so it obliges by drawing more of those similar experiences towards us – so we can keep playing in that energy. No wonder it is so difficult to let go and move on.
I remember when I got divorced in 1985. I did exactly the same, and when I think about it now – I cringe in embarrassment. I am sure people saw me coming and wanted to duck and hide, rather than listen to the endless painful stories. And yet at that time, I knew no better.
Thanks to the spiritual work I have done on myself over the past 30 years, everything has changed. I have learned to let go and to truly find my joy. I have learned many modalities over the years, and the one that has shifted my consciousness the most are the Access Consciousness tools. The first step is the Access Bars training, and this together with their many books give easy guidance that relates to many different aspects of our lives, and I have integrated this knowledge with everything I do and teach.
I tend to be a workaholic and perfectionist and this puts so much stress on my life. To alleviate this, I have my ‘Bars’ run regularly and I can literally feel my body sighing in anticipation as I let go and sink into the energy of blissful receiving.
Here are a few tips on how I manage my life and find my joy:
I have learnt not to get hooked into trauma and drama (my own or listening to others), as I know how giving attention to the story keeps it active. Instead, every time my mind goes into trying to solve issues or negativity of any kind, I reign it in by looking for something I can be grateful for instead. This is the way to consciously train the monkey mind. When you start looking for little things all day every day, that you can be grateful for – you start noticing how much beauty we have around us and how much we have to be grateful for. Acknowledging them and how they make us feel, and then ending by adding this simple question: How does it get better than this – is a sure-fire way to begin changing your life.
An example of this would be : Oh wow – I love the smell of the earth after it has rained, it makes my heart sing. Thank you, thank you, thank you. How does it get better than this? Or: I have just found 50 cents on the road – money from heaven, I am so grateful thank you for the abundance flowing into my life. How does it get better than this? (By the way – I say this every time an eft payment goes into my account and I get notifications on my phone). You can do the same when you get enquiries for your business. Don’t wait to do it only when bookings are made or orders come in. When you get an enquiry; acknowledge that the doors are opening and people are noticing you and what you have to offer and thank the universe for the abundant support that is coming your way. This sets the stage for more and more.
Did you know that it takes 3 days to change a pattern? So doing this all day every day for 3 days allows the higher self to let go of the negative limiting beliefs that we have held onto, and allows it to realise that we are now operating from a different perspective. After 3 days the higher self will begin to manifest more of what you are focussing on and you will begin to attract more of the yumminess life has to offer.
This does not mean that we only have to do this for 3 days to change our realities. The more you keep looking for gratitudes the more life will flow with ease, and when it does we are mastering being in the 5th dimension. The minute you go into fear, worry, panic or fight and flight mode, you are back in the lower denser 3rd-dimensional reality – where everything is a struggle. It takes conscious awareness to realise that we have gone back there and to stop the monkey mind – distracting it with something light and easy.
This is only one of the amazing tools I have mastered, but for me, this one is the most important, and it changed my reality very quickly. My life is now ease and joy in all ways, and when I get stressed or anxious about anything – including the emotional turmoil we are going through with my beloved aunt, this is my default setting which helps me let go and trust the process.
I hope you have found this helpful (even though it is something I have spoken about before) – hearing something often eventually allows it to sink in and become a reality, and if you would like more, please don’t hesitate to join one of my classes.
Have a magic month beautiful being, until next time